If you need to boil down running a household to one word it is definitely AUTOMATE. Anything and everything you can put on autopilot will serve you well. And by “automate” I mean hire someone else to do it instead of you.
Years ago when homes had staff the person in charge of the staff, hiring, training, and monitoring the quality of work was the housekeeper. Now that you’re Captain Housekeeper of your home, you have been tasked with the same responsibilities.
YOU HAVE NOT BEEN TASKED WITH PHYSICALLY DOING THEM ALL
Here’s a quick list of tasks that you could and should automate as soon as possible:
Mowing the lawn
Washing and ironing work clothes (dress shirts, etc)
Cleaning the pool
Washing the vehicles
Washing exterior windows
You do not have to explain yourself or apologize for building a team to get the work done. I saw a coffee cup once that said “Beyonce has the same number of hours a day that you do” – and in the spirit of that, think about who your hero is – Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, whoever yours is – and think about how good they are at building a team to reach their goals.
You got this. Automate what you can as soon as possible. If I were you I would get a cleaning service immediately, don’t wait for some arbitrary goal like “when the house is picked up”. Then get someone to do your yardwork. This will free up SO MUCH of your time and you can use that to tackle your other household responsibilities.